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Get Back Together: Why Men Pull Away

Mon, Jul 21, 2008

Religion and Spirituality

You man has just walked away from your relationship and you want him back. The first thing you should do is figure out the real reason he left. You need to understand why men pull away from a relationship. The answer may not be as obvious as you think. If he’s a decent guy (if he wasn’t you wouldn’t want him back, right?) it’s unlikely he actually left you for another woman, even if he is running around with one right now. There’s usually a deeper reason why men pull away from a committed relationship.

The truth is that most men need to feel admired by their woman. They need to feel that you respect and approve of them, that you think they are something special. That’s true even if they’re overweight, out of shape, unemployed, and can’t even be bothered to put their dirty clothes in the hamper.

I understand that this puts you in a tough situation, since us guys aren’t always very admirable. Still, the way our heads work, we need to feel respected and admired, even when we don’t deserve it. That’s why men pull away, because they don’t feel that you admire them anymore. They don’t feel like they meet with your approval, that you are dissatisfied with them, no longer admire and respect them. If he’s with another woman now, it’s probably because she gave him the respect and admiration he wasn’t feeling from you anymore.

So what now? Now that you know the underlying reason why men pull away, you need to think about whether it applies to your relationship. Do you still dress up nice for him sometimes, still laugh at his jokes, or at least act impressed when he tells you about his latest accomplishment at the office? Can you find something, anything positive about the guy that you can truly respect and admire?

There must be some things admirable about him or you wouldn’t want him back. With the pressures and stresses of everyday life, its easy to get out of the habit of letting your guy know what you admire about him. It’s easy to stop doing the things you used to do to show him you love him and think he’s wonderful. Men aren’t the most sensitive of creatures, and we often suck at understanding and expressing what we’re feeling, but if you stop showing your admiration and respect for us, we eventually feel it on some level. That feeling is why men pull away. It’s probably why your man pulled away from you.

Now that you know the most common reason why men pull away from their relationships, think about whether this is why your guy pulled away. Whether it is or isn’t the actual reason, figuring out what that reason is will bring you one step closer to getting him back.

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